Its Own Beautifully Unruly Way

‘Life rarely makes any more sense when things are done ‘in order’. Life makes sense when we are centered in our hearts and we let go of resisting how our unique journey needs to unfold in its own beautifully, unruly way’.

That part gets me every time. The answer to the question about how to do just that, might make us go mad right before we realise it lies in the fact that we have to create ourself instead of finding ourself.

It does sound a bit funny, ‘finding’ ourself. As if we were lost, thinking or feeling we’re out of touch with ourself. Maybe you’ve been running around like crazy trying to keep up with a hectic schedule while keeping your boss and friends happy because you’re such a pleaser. Maybe you’ve been going through a rough time and your body doesn’t seem to get on the right track which keeps you from doing the things you love. Maybe you’ve been shaken up by something a person told you and you don’t know what to think. Maybe you’ve fallen in love or out of love and you don’t recognize yourself anymore. Maybe you’re missing someone so much that you can hear your heart break. Maybe you feel like your life is shifting and you’re losing all control. Maybe you’re feeling depressed and you can’t understand why you’re still feeling that way. Maybe you feel like having a knot in your stomach when you think about all of your questions. Maybe you’re looking for the wrong answers at the wrong places at the wrong time. Maybe you’re just trying too hard to find answers you’re never going to get if you keep on looking for them, just like a dog chasing its tail. Maybe we should just stop thinking and breathe.

Sometimes, all you need is for time to pass by and then it’ll come to you. Of course you’re not lost, you are right there. I see you. I feel you. You’re still in there. So what, it’s not the path you thought you had in mind, it may not be going the way it’s supposed to go or as you had imagined | liked | planned. That’s life in it’s purest! That’s what it’s all about. Don’t let that hold you back from becoming who you are. Yes, it’s a rough pat(c)h sometimes, but it all contributes to your being. It does define you and you have to find the courage to choose how you want it to define you. Experiences make ourselves grow, and sometimes we grow harder than we know. But your bricks have been laying around you all this time, just waiting for you to know how to handle them again so you can continue (re)building and creating your own path again. Because honestly, that’s what we’ve been doing all along although you might not even have known it. Why stop now, right? It’s good to be aware of the new situation, but it’s okay to stop and not think for a while and just breathe. You need time to process things. And while you’re not-thinking, you’re letting go of resisting the fact that you’ve chosen to create your path as of that moment and you’ll get in that place where you can enjoy the simple things in life again. The BIG small things. And that’s where your journey starts to unfold in its own beautifully, unruly way.

‘Live every day as if it’s your last, embracing each experience as if it’s your first.’




Instant Tiramisu

I LOVE Tiramisu. It’s one of my most favorite desserts, next to anything with chocolate, but I am very picky about it and it sometimes takes too much prep-time before I can indulge myself with this Italian delight. I wanted something that would be a quick fix for those instant cravings you get in the supermarket, or for a last-minute dinner party for two (or three or four). Since I’ve already made this Tiramisu for several occasions within three weeks, I decided to put this one up. It’s such an easy recipe and really just food for the soul. I even make myself believe that it’s the ‘healthier’ version. It lifts you up (get it? Tira mi su)!

For this recipe for two you’ll need:

  • 6-8 Bastogne cookies (caramelised and cinnamon flavored cookies)
  • coffee or espresso
  • half a package of Philadelphia light (90 gr) or another brand of cream cheese
  • same amount of Greek yogurt 0% fat
  • Amaretto (or another coffee liquor)
  • cocoa powder
  • grated dark chocolate
  • Chopper

It’s best when you prepare this before starting your dinner, so it can get a nicely, cooled temperature in the refrigerator. It only takes about 5 minutes.

1. Crumble the cookies in the chopper, and crush it. I like it better when it’s not finely crushed, but when it’s still a bit chunky. Put this in a nice glass and press it down.

2. Pour a little (cooled) coffee over this cookie crumble, just enough to have it drenched on top but still dry at the bottom. The crunchy chew and the coffee-drenched cookie will cause for a sizzling taste-bud sensation while you’re staring at your empty spoon again, thinking: is it gone already? *I love this part right here*

3. Mix the Philadelphia and yogurt with a few good (!) shots of Amaretto in the chopper, pour this deliciousness on top of the coffee-cookie crumble and put the glass(es) in the fridge.

4. Now before you serve the Tiramisu, give it a good dusting with cocoa powder and top it off with grated dark chocolate.

This is the recipe for my instant Tiramisu at the moment. I’m still experimenting with adding egg whites to step 3 for more fluffiness. You can also drench the cookies with the coffee and amaretto mixed together, instead of splitting those two ingredients up. As long as the coffee is cooled; that’ll bring out more of the flavour(s). You can also add some more layers and some ingredients to the cookie crumble or Philadelphia-yogurt mix (like fruits, chocolate, rasped coconut or maybe caramelised pecan nuts). Ah well, I could go on and on about how to mix it up, but recipes are just never quite done and it all depends on your mood. Just have some fun with it and follow your gut!

Buon appetito!



Happy Monday!

It’s Monday again.. We should actually proclaim it as ‘Happy Monday’, to get inspired to start the week again. Let’s just do that and see the start of the week as important as we do think of the end of the week with Fridays. Hopefully you enjoyed the weekend and you can have a fresh start of your week (unless you enjoyed the weekend a bit too much).

If you’re dragging yourself to work, try to think of the positive things that work brings you. We sometimes get stuck on focusing what we don’t like, instead of looking at the glass half full. You really don’t like it? Leave it. There’s something not quite right? Change it. Otherwise, just love it! The positive approach will make it look better in a while (and some more sleep will do to).

So go a little crazy, why don’t you just get that cup of coffee for your colleagues or give them a compliment about their new suit or whatever it was that catched your eye but you somehow didn’t tell them yet. That will bring a positive flow to those cubicles and it will do you some good too, giving people compliments – when they’re sincere ‘though! See Monday as a new start and try to love the things you do.

Have a Happy Monday!